5 Reasons Why You Should Problem Solve In front of Your Baby

Everyone knows that babies are like sponges, we have heard this many times before. This includes that they take in information when you are arguing with your partner, family members or friends. #problemsolving #healthyrelationships #babies #emotionalhealth #arguements #healthy #healthyproblemsolving

It is not always an easy task to be able to communicate maturely and healthily when feelings are involved. For me, rejection is an extremely hard feeling to express and it is something that I have to continuously work on. In my home I want to create with my boyfriend an environment where everyone feels comfortable expressing themselves and problem solving. The secret to this is communication. As my boyfriend had shown me through the years that we have been together, a lot of problems would be avoided if we both just communicated. Before I met him I guess I could say that I didn't even know what communicating properly was.

Here are my 7 reasons why healthy problem solving is crucial for your babies as well as your relationships.

1. Learning Basic Problem Solving Skills.

Even though they cannot even speak yet they are learning skills and talking in a whole lot of information. They can sense the difference in energy around you when something is wrong versus when you are happy and relaxed. It is crazy! Your baby will even try and make you smile or get your attention when they sense that something is wrong. Is it very simple, as simple as monkey see monkey do. When you show them that problem solving is something you have to do when you argue with someone they will automatically learn it as if it was a second language.

2. Resentments.

It is important to not hold onto feelings and to be able to let go of your them once you expressed yourself, so that you can move on and truly forgive and forget. Without this crucial step you begin carrying onto anger and sadness that is only harmful to your relationships and yourself. It becomes a heavy weight on your shoulders and interferes with the relationship.

3. Comfortable and Confident in Expressing Themselves!

This translates into every aspect of you and your child's life. They will not let people walk over them and they will be able to healthily express their feelings to those around them. Avoiding many "complicated" friendships and relationships in their life. Whether it be a friendship, work relationship, acquaintance, etc they will be able to respect themselves and express their feelings in the correct way.

4. Self-Awareness

This is a skill that many people do not have and it is in my opinion one of the best things you can learn. If you are self aware you will be able to understand your part in an argument, bad habits you need to work on, things in your life you are missing, etc. It applies to everything in your life and is a crucial skill that I am only beginning to learn. Despite this, I want my daughter to learn this early on in her life.

5. Notice The Difference

If you choose to practice healthy problem solving skills in front of your baby they will not be sensitive around people arguing in a proper way. I remember as a child when people would fight I would assume that it is going to escalate and I would feel the bad energy and get uncomfortable. However, if every time you have an argument with someone in front of your child and you come back and communicate properly you baby will get accustomed to it. Many parents try to shelter and hide fights from their children but this actually ends up forcing them to choose sides and become uncomfortable. It is important to be transparent in front of your children. Some arguments are not appropriate to discuss in front of children but it is still important to express that the problem was solved.