12 Reasons Why Overly Sensitive People Live a Less Enjoyable Life

Sensitivity. It is a huge issue for me, always was and probably always will be. Something extraordinarily hard to change the habits of. #sensitive #emotional #emotionalhealth #healing #emotionalhealing #youngmom #motherhood #selfaware #selfawarness #sensitivity #overlysensitive

I do believe that to a certain extent that some people are born with personality traits. That some babies are possibly more sensitive due to stress or tensions they felt in the womb, energy they picked up, genes or maybe it is just how they are. Not totally sure. I do know however that people who are too sensitive will live a less enjoyable life. For me this will just be more reasons why I push myself to be less sensitive in my everyday life. I do believe that everything you do needs a balance, and it goes the same with sensitivity. Being a more sensitive person is great, you are more in tune with your emotions, empathetic, and you definitely notice and cherish little moments that may have passed right through someone else's mind. Here are my 12 reasons why being TOO sensitive is a no go!

1. You have trouble forgiving and letting go. Fights occur in everyone's life, this is completely normal and I think we can all agree on that. But how about holding onto resentments of something small or easily forgivable for long periods of time? It certainly isn't healthy and doesn't do you any good but people who are more sensitive are prone to forgive less. To them what you say or may have done to them is dramatized and they continue to remind themselves of that. It is much easier to live your emotions in a proper way, communicate with the other person if possible and move on. And when we say move on that you are actually able to leave it in the past.

2. The inability to take constructive criticism. This is an amazing quality that I think is so necessarily in peoples everyday life. You should be able to take constructive criticism in your relationships with others and at work. It is how we get better or fix certain mistakes we are making. It is only human. But people who are overly sensitive have trouble taking constructive criticism because instead of listening to it as a way to become better in their skills they are offended or take what you are saying to the heart. Once again, bringing unnecessary stress into your life that is not needed.

3. You get offended to things that aren't even directed at you. This one I relate to a lot. I am positive I am not alone. It is when you are sensitive about a topic because you relate it to yourself and when others speak about it you become emotional. It brings bad feelings into your life such that you are bringing upon yourself. There is millions of people out there, and they will have their opinions but if it gives you such a reaction than there is a problem. Maybe you are overly sensitive. Don't let others opinions dictate your emotions.

4. You fight with those around you more. This is just my opinion but being someone who is overly sensitive has lead me to get into arguments and fights with people in my surroundings more. I mean it is just expected when you get offended easily, you take things to the heart, and are always being sensitive. It is often because I am already getting sensitive before listening the entire point of the conversation. Try and control that urge a bit more and try to understand their point of view.

5. People feel like they have to be careful what they say. Have you ever heard of the saying "It is like in stepping on eggshells?" well it is quite self explanatory but it refers to how you feel when you are around someone. It can be someone who has an anger issue, overly sensitive, always complaining, etc. But it is not a good feeling at all and often people feel like this around those who are overly sensitive. As if they have to watch every little thing they say or do. Scared that you will react in a sensitive or emotional way.

I am not going to explain each of my 12 reasons as I think that my point has been made, however I will write more down below so that you can see for yourself if you agree. If you are someone who is overly sensitive, ask yourself if it is something that you want to change. I surely am not nearly as sensitive as I used to be and I can say for myself that I am more happy.

6. You give other people the power to change your mood

7. People have a harder time seeing your strengths

8. When something does hurt you, you aren't taken seriously.

9. You are sometimes an emotional roller coaster

10. People act less free spirited when with you

11. You think too much

12. You are putting yourself through unnecessary pain and stress

It is quite clear already that these 12 reason come from thinking about my own life. How it affects myself and those around me. I do think that when helping others or attempting to give others advice that by looking at your own actions you are able to relate and connect with others. This topic is something that I do need to continue to apply in my life, it is something I have started to work on the past year but I do have a long way to go. One day with the goal of being more free spirited and less of someone who is in my thoughts a lot. I want to enjoy my life the right way and not waste time thinking about others comments, judgements, and so on.

In the past I told myself that my over sensitivity is something I love about myself as a way to camouflage the fact that it is a problem and it affects my self esteem, spirit and those around me. As they always say, accepting that there is a problem is the first step.